The role of the husband in the Bible is weighty and sobering to men intoxicated by selfishness and flippancy. It is a radical call amid a culture that values immediate happiness and comfort over commitment.

Go in, great saint, go all the way in -
go way down into the cavernous cellars,
away up into the spacious attics -
it is a vast, roomy house, this house where God is.
Go into the deepest of hidden casements
of withdrawal, of silence, of sainthood.
Some must inhabit those inner rooms, 
and know the depth and heights of God,

And all that many ever find
is only the wall where a door ought to be.
They creep along the wall like blind men,
with outstretched, groping hands,
feeling for a door, knowing there must be a door,

I Stand by the door.
I neither go too far in, nor stay too far out.
The door is the most important door in the world -
it is the door through which folk walk when they find God.
There's no use my going way inside and staying there,
when so many are still outside, and they, as much as I,
crave to know where the door is.